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i-got-screwed.org is under development... INTERNATIONAL LANGUAGE TRANSLATIONS ENGLISH TO: "Why are we here?" the leader of a large company asked me at the start of a meeting (when the answer could not have been more clear to anyone who actually read my complaint brief). Midway through the meeting the same person said, "That's not how (we do) business," but those words proved disingenuous as well because the evidence shows that is exactly how they do business.
Some people may not understand the Why Factor, the Good Fight, wisdom or quotations until they’ve either lived long enough, or walked in the shoes of someone who’s been seriously screwed over in an unfair work environment. And this resource is for them. My own troubles with formerly-trusted business associates provided me this voice and motivation so honest hard-working nice people may benefit and learn from my real-world negative experiences and hopefully get over getting screwed.
My best top ten greatest lessons I’ve learned the hard way about doing business:
2) Any contract is only as good as the people or organization behind it, so choose your associates wisely — or you are practically guaranteed to have problems later when someone wakes up one day and decides he doesn’t like the contract because he will surely try to weasel out of it. 3) Putting unqualified, unprofessional friends in management positions is very risky business — they are bound to make serious mistakes on the job that can adversely affect working people's lives and make a company and its officers appear dishonest if they don't address them in reasonable good faith. The TRUTH, the FACTS are offensive to these people because it holds a MIRROR to their face and they don't like who they see looking back. But in reality, who wouldn't want an effective charismatic leader of low moral character to do the people's dirty work while they look the other way and receive unjust enrichment? History, relationships, governments and the business world are full of such amoral characters and cheating scenarios. While my words may not be very nice, I believe they are spot on. And a few blunt words of truth are nothing compared to how mean-spirited, unlawful or negligent actions of a perpetrator can continue damaging someone's family financially and emotionally long after everyone else has moved on and forgotten all about it. Besides, bullies, cheaters and thieves just crap on "nice" anyway. |
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THE GOLDEN RULE OF BUSINESS: After more than 25 years as a professional self-employed independent contractor, I believe I've stumbled upon my number one Golden Rule of doing business: “In looking for people to (do business with), look for three qualities: integrity, intelligence, and energy. And if they don't have the first, the other two will kill you.” - Warren Buffett (Businessman, 1930-)
SEE SNAKE-IN-THE-GRASS.COM FOR MORE OF LIFE'S GREATEST QUOTES, ANECDOTES AND WISDOM ABOUT GETTING SCREWED OVER IN THE BUSINESS WORLD AND HOW TO "GET OVER IT". |
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| 101 PSYCHOLOGY OF GETTING SCREWED because understanding is healing... |
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“Bullying consists of the least competent most aggressive employee projecting their incompetence on to the least aggressive most competent employee and winning.” - Tim Field (Author) Interesting the writer sees the bully "winning" (the fight?) — I guess he is correct in some perverted sense, however, the company loses the competent worker and its workplace wars continue under the dysfunctional management.
WIKIPEDIA: Psychological projection was first conceptualized by Dr. Sigmund Freud (1856-1939) as a defence mechanism in which a person unconsciously rejects his or her own unacceptable attributes by ascribing them to objects or persons in the outside world instead. Thus, projection involves projecting negative qualities onto others, and is a common psychological process.... This is an important concept to learn about because if we don't stand up and tell people who we are (we passively shrink back from others), it makes us a prime "object" that people will "project" their negative (and positive) traits upon. For example, a dishonest or evil person will gravitate to calm, non-aggressive people and project his or her dishonesty and violence on the less-dominate personalities. The first line of defence against these types of attackers is to stand up and tell people who you are (or people will naturally project themselves upon you) — which can't be good if you have to be around jealous, insecure, dishonest, incompetent or violent people, or people who hate themselves. Haters hate and bully others because they HATE themselves and PROJECT their self-hatred on others they think will not fight back. |
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VICTIM BLAMING The real pisser about getting unfairly screwed over is the psychological phenomenon: VICTIM BLAMING (Wikipedia). Victim blaming is when people and/or laws perceive a victim as being fully or partially responsible for acts of wrongdoing committed against them regardless if they did nothing wrong. Blaming the victim exists in human society most flagrantly in racist, sexist, and classist forms where the victim is not able to defend himself or herself against a wealthier, more-powerful, better-connected perpetrator. Under the guise of victim-blaming "justice," victims get screwed over and over for speaking up for themselves, the perpetrator moves on unpunished, and good people can ease their minds by rationalizing the victim must have done something to warrant the abuse in the first place and thereby got what s/he deserved — this is human nature.
GIRL AND THE SNAKE STORY to teach young boys and girls life's lessons about the Spiritual and Mythological nature of snakes in history. |
| HATRED is like drinking poison and hoping it kills the other person. |
 DOWNLOAD FREE HIGH-RESOLUTION GOOD FIGHT QUOTES POSTER. |
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“Each of us is a book waiting to be written, and that book, if written, results in a person explained.” - Thomas M. Cirignano (Author) |
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How a person fights back or deals with being wronged mostly depends on his or her personality and the backbone and morals their mother or father or guardian instilled in them as a child. “Life is a fight, but not everyone’s a fighter. Otherwise, bullies would be an endangered species.” - Andrew Vachss (Author) I can still hear my grandma telling me: “Forget those people, and let your hard work be your measure.” However, good measure doesn’t pay the rent or the hospital bills when your children get sick. |
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“People aren't that complicated, Joe, good people, bad people, they generally look like what they are.” - "The Spanish Prisoner" Jimmy Dell |
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“Life is tough, get over it.” - Bill Gates (Microsoft cofounder) Great advice, but I can’t help wondering if Mr. Gates got screwed and got over it, or if he screwed other people and was telling them to get over it. Even Steve Jobs’ (Apple cofounder) biography contains this paradox of cold-blooded ruthlessness to get ahead versus morally doing the right thing by his business partners. |
| “We must straighten our backs... A man can't ride you unless your back is bent.”
- Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr. (Activist, 1929-1968) |
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“If you want to test a man's character, give him power.” - Abraham Lincoln (16th US president, 1809-1865) |
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“I am afraid we must make the world honest before we can honestly say to our children that honesty is the best policy.” - George Bernard Shaw (Playwright, 1856-1950) |
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“Knowing what's right doesn't mean much unless you do what's right.” - Theodore Roosevelt (US President) |
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“If you're horrible to me, I'm going to write a song about it, and you won't like it. That's how I operate.” - Taylor Swift (Singer) |
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“The defense to slander is truth.” - Perry Mason (Character, TV attorney) |
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“Don't pee on my leg and tell me it's raining.” - Judge Judy Sheindlin |
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“When people hurt you over and over, think of them like sandpaper. They may scratch and hurt you a bit, but in the end, you end up polished and they end up useless.” - Chris Colfer (actor/singer, 1990-) |
| “A man is not finished when he is defeated. He is finished when he quits.”
- Richard Nixon (37th US President 1913-1994) |
| PHOTOS, NEWS, LINKS OF PEOPLE WHO GOT SCREWED |
THE NBCNEWS.COM HEADLINE: "Murdered for her organs while on vacation?" What do you say to this child's family (assuming it's true and that they had nothing to do with it)? How low will greedy people stoop to make a few dollars? |
| ABOUT I-GOT-SCREWED.ORG & MISSION STATEMENT |
Without backstory, igotscrewed may appear an odd bird, but we are here because I believe good people should not be unfairly punished for respectfully standing up for themselves and speaking the truth in their defence. And to create a positive Web portal to share life's universal hard lessons learned and tips about how to avoid making the biggest mistakes in business. 
FREE HIGH-RESOLUTION CHARACTER QUOTES: 1) 
What is psychological projection?
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